Stop, Look and Listen

January 15th, 2013 | Shonali Burke | 6 Comments

Taj MahalI don’t know if it’s acceptable to wish you a Happy New Year when we’re two weeks into 2013, but seeing as how I haven’t talked to you in 2013, I think it is. So Happy New Year! Is it a good one so far?

You’ll recall that before we left 2012, I told you I was going to India for a long overdue trip home. Well, we had a wonderful time catching up with family, friends and high school buddies (my class’ 25th reunion!). Among other highlights, we went to church as a family on Christmas Day, I got to show my husband my drama school and the Taj Mahal (and even check in there on Foursquare!), and he petted numerous street dogs all over India.

Here’s a look at the Flickr set of our trip:


Created with Admarket’s flickrSLiDR.

We were also there just after what has to be one of the most shameful crimes in the history of the world – the horrific Delhi gang rape tragedy. Even calling it “horrific” and a “tragedy” seems inadequate.

I mean, just what do you call an act of such extreme viciousness and violence – where a perpetrator isn’t satisfied with inflicting extreme pain and the ultimate indignity on a woman, but then pulls her bowels out with his own bare hands?

I have no words. It makes me ill just to think about it.

So it was an eventful trip.

Half the time (after we went from Kolkata to Delhi) we didn’t know if we’d be able to go out (because of the protests), most of the time we were freezing (it was colder in Kolkata than in DC!), and almost all of the time we didn’t know if our flights would be delayed/even take off.

Despite all that, though, we had a wonderful time, as you can see from the photos. Because we were in one of the most vibrant countries and cultures in the world, surrounded by people who wanted to make us happy, and who, despite the kinds of daily trials you and I wouldn’t put up with for a second here in the U.S., live not just a happy life, but a rich one… even if they are not wealthy.

If you haven’t visited India (or the East), it’s tough to describe it to you. You either love it or hate it, that much I do believe; it’s very hard to remain ambivalent about it.

But the one thing that I can tell you, is that if you just stop, look and listen, you will come away with so much. So very much, much more than you ever thought you would.

Thinking about it, doesn’t that apply to getting the best out of life?

Stop, look and listen

To the chaos

To the quiet

To the sounds

To the smells

To the wind

To the people

At the ground

At the sky

At the day

At the night

At the colors

At the people

Three words

Us blogger types, typically as we end one year and start the next, we go through the “three words” exercise. Last year, my three words were attention, intention and retention. And despite – or maybe, because of – the roller coaster my life went through last year, I think I did pretty well by them. Particularly “attention” and “intention.”

This year, my words are stop, look, and listen.

Because while there is much to be gained by speeding up, there is so much more to be gained by slowing down. Attentively. Intentionally. Thus retaining what is positive, and junking the rest.

What say you?

Happy New Year, folks! What are your three words? Did you have any epiphany over the holidays? Did I miss out on anything? Let me know… because you know the comments are yours!

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rachaelseda
rachaelseda

Does it have to be three words? I can't get the quote  "how bad do you want it?" out of my head :)

Craig McBreen
Craig McBreen

Shonali,

Sounds like it was an amazing trip and thanks for the slide show.

I guess it's hard not to stop, look, and listen while in India, huh?

It really is difficult to fathom the tragedy that occurred. I've seen many of the protests, pretty amazing. I wonder if the 17-year-old will have to stand trial as an adult?

Anyway, amazing pics. Thanks! 25th reunion? I don't believe it :)

Stop, look, and listen, I will.

Shonali
Shonali moderator

@rachaelseda LOL, where on earth did that come from? I'm almost afraid to ask... ;)

Shonali
Shonali moderator

@Craig McBreen It really is (hard, I mean) - there is so much going on there, and it's such a riot of colors and sounds... oh dear, I'm starting to miss it again. I'm so glad you enjoyed the slideshow!

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