Shonali, wish you all the luck and happiness in the New Year. Whatever it is that you have been dealing with, hope you will continue to be strong. Trust you are having a good time back home, Cheers!
We at WUL have. Now, don’t worry, we’re not going away again… at least, not permanently! But seeing as how Christmas is around the corner, we’re going on a blog holiday starting tomorrow until Jan. 6. Yes, I know we just came back, but we want to celebrate the holidays too!
A lot of people are publishing “reflection” posts this time of year, and while I’m not going to bore you with the details, I will say that 2013 was, and will be, a landmark year for me… in ways that didn’t always feel great.
It’s curious that many people I know feel the same way (I imagine everyone’s circumstances were different). I don’t know whether that’s simply a factor of us growing older, or whether it has really been a bizarre year (what has been your experience?).
Through it all, though, I have come to realize one thing: that which doesn’t kill us really does make us stronger… if we let it.
By that I mean we could choose to let adverse circumstances weigh us down, and believe me, I know that feeling. It’s one of helplessness, of powerlessness, of darkness that clouds every waking moment. But a few weeks ago I realized that, as I’ve been working through my “stuff,” I am so grateful for it, almost appreciative that this horrible, earth-shattering series of unfortunate events (to put it mildly) actually descended upon me.
I truly was, and am, grateful. Because everything I went through (may still have to go through) made me think of things I would never have conceived of before. I confronted fears I’d tried to bury, deep, deep down inside me. (I didn’t always deal with them well, but they are slowly losing their stranglehold over me.). I started recreating pieces of myself I’d almost forgotten had ever existed. I started dancing again – literally and figuratively speaking.
I started reclaiming my life. It’s not perfect yet – it probably won’t ever be – but it’s a heck of a lot better than it was a few months ago. And even if it takes a downturn again – which it very well might – I think I will deal better with the circumstances, one day at a time.
And that is my New Year’s wish for you for 2014. Not that you have to deal with horrible things – I would never wish that on anyone, even my worst enemy, but that you get a few steps closer to conquering your demons. That your vision of your best self becomes that much more clearer, and closer. And that every day you fit more comfortably into the skin of the wonderful being you were put on this earth to be.
Happy holidays and see you in 2014!
(Yes, that’s me sitting on Santa’s knee. In North Pole. I kid you not.)
Love this, Shonali! So glad you were able to keep moving forward, learn how to 'dance' and share your resilient spirit with us :) Here's to the best year yet!
We are kindred spirits here Shonali: my post today reflects somewhat similar sentiments. Whatever it is you've been dealing with, I trust you will continue to move toward the "pot of gold at the end of the rainbow", knowing that there will always be more storms and rainbows in our lives. One day at a time, one step at a time. Cheers! Kaarina
Shonali, I wish you all good things in the new year! Your voice was missed when you stepped away. Your humanity and strength are inspiring, and I know that 2014 will bring you lots of opportunities to dance :)
@Ancita I'm so sorry to have replied late, Ancita! It was wonderful to talk to you on India time, and I hope to do so again soon! And I hope 2014 has started off wonderfully for you.
@dbvickery Back at you re: the getting to know bit, Brian - I'm so sorry I replied so late!
@RobBiesenbach Belated thanks! So... now that 2014 has been here a few months, how is everything going?
@lisaml15 Ditto, Lisa, and very belated thanks!
@KDillabough Thank you, belatedly, my friend! How is March 2014 treating you?
@rosemaryoneill That was such a kind comment, Rosemary - thank you! And I am so sorry it took me this long to reply... I think I was in transit and then it just got crazy. Has 2014 started well for you?
@Shonali It's going great! Launched the book then took a delayed honeymoon to Hawaii (14 months after the fact)! Hope your year is going well, too!
@Shonali I'm working hard to not allow this prolonged winter get me down. Today I blasted some music full volume and danced around the office. Went out and made snow angels. But the minus 30 degree weather we've had, and are expected to have until the end of March is making me feel like a caged animal. I long for Spring
@RobBiesenbach Ooh, Hawaii! I want to go there! As for me - outside of busting my arm last week (fell on ice, ugh), I'm doing well, thank you!
@KDillabough Thank you! I'm entering the fourth week of recovery now. I still don't have my full range of motion or strength back, and it's really frustrating. I think I have at least 3 more weeks of PT... ugh.
@Shonali Well, you know I can't "like" that. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
@KDillabough I saw the snow angel pic on FB - loved it! I'd give anything to dance around right now, but my arm won't stand for it. :(